Want to be more confident? Scared of taking that leap of faith? Well not to worry, it happens to the best of us at some point. The real question is, how can you boost your confidence levels and cultivate a “can-do attitude?” In this article, we’ll be discussing some mental hacks and tips that will allow you to have a positive, realistic, view of yourself and situations around you. By being self-confident, you can regain control over your life and take charge of your abilities in any setting, professional or social.
Get Rid of Self-Limiting Beliefs and Practices
Remember a time when you wanted to be an astronaut or rocket scientist, and the world was yours to conquer? Somewhere between elementary school and adulthood, your dreams dampened a bit and you were forced to lower your enthusiasm in order to conform to societal expectations. In order to get your swag back, start by getting rid of all the self-limiting beliefs that society has instilled in you. Don’t listen to what the outside world is telling you about yourself. Only then can you expose yourself to challenging situations and push through uncomfortable scenarios. You’ll be amazed at how much you’ve been missing out on.
Condition yourself to believe you can successfully take on any challenge, and watch your confidence grow. Like my uncle always said, you can’t say you’re not a musician until you pick up an instrument. Whether it’s an exciting culinary course you’ve always wanted to sign up for or that attractive person you’ve been wanting to ask out, just go for it.
Improve Your Body Image
Devote more time and resources on improving the way you look. By this, I mean exercise more often, commit to a healthier diet, and get more sleep. Numerous studies have shown that increased physical activity has a direct, positive impact on your confidence levels. So grab your yoga pants and running shoes, get the ol’ bike out of the shed and break a sweat. Looking great will have you feeling confident as well. As your fitness and image improve, so will the belief in your own abilities. Chances are, your professional and social life will improve a great deal too.
Raise Your Curiosity
We are where we are as a human race thanks to some really curious ancestors. A curious little critter ventured onto land millions of years ago and here we are launching solar probes and planning trips to Mars. A curious mind is the foundation of elevated confidence levels and the start of anything great. Curiosity demands an adventurous response, which in turn ignites courage and confidence. Approach new situations with genuine curiosity - you’ll be amazed at just how great things turn out.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Comparing yourself to others doesn’t do your confidence any good. Trust me when I say you are the gold standard to your own life. Believe in your own abilities and practice self-acceptance. You are a unique entity. What if Kanye tried to sing like Taylor Swift and Tay Tay tried to rap like Ye? Actually, we’d like to see that.
The point is, you are great at being you. In fact, you are the absolute best in the world at being you. Work on yourself and improve your weak areas. You’ll realize how awesome being different from everyone else is. Remember, what others think isn’t important, how you think of yourself is what matters. The moment you put aside others’ thoughts and focus on your own, your self-confidence will improve dramatically.
Set a Series of Small Goals and Work Towards Them
Don’t get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with aiming for the moon. But you have to remember that Mt. Everest is climbed one step at a time. By setting up small goals, you can slowly build your confidence as you successfully tackle each task. Not only will you feel great about these small achievements, you’ll also be confident to take on larger, more complex goals. As you continue to achieve these goals, you’ll begin to feel better about yourself. Soon enough, you’ll be dripping with swag.
Give and Accept Compliments
Learning to gracefully accept compliments is a great way to boost your confidence. By downplaying or ignoring a compliment, you’re essentially saying “I’m not worth the trouble.” Even if you’re being modest, this could have a negative impact on your self-confidence. Next time somebody says something nice about you, take a moment to acknowledge it and show some gratitude. Giving compliments, on the other hand, shows that you’re confident enough in yourself to recognize other people’s strengths. Giving sincere compliments puts other people in a good mood, and chances are you’ll receive a couple yourself - which should up your confidence level a notch or two.
Listen to Some Music
Another tried and true method assured to boost your confidence involves listening to lively music. Studies have found that listening to music makes you proactive. In addition to leaving you feeling pumped, lively music gives you an extra shot of confidence to face the day. Ever notice that top athletes are always listening to something on their headphones before a big game? This is not a coincidence. So next time you need a confidence boost, turn on some upbeat jams.
Overcome Your Fears and Doubts
You’re the sperm that won. It's okay to have some doubts now and then, but learning how to overcome these fears is a great way to improve your confidence. Don’t let your fears hold you hostage. The mind can leave you vulnerable, but with the right attitude, it can make you feel all-powerful as well. Trust in your own capabilities and get rid of the voice in your head telling you what you can’t do. Fear and doubt won’t do you any good. Train your mind to focus on the positives, and start winning.
Feeling confident is not only good for your professional and social life, but also for your health and personal well-being. Build up enough confidence and you can own the world. Because it will be YOUR world.
The most important point to remember is that being confident starts with you. Improving your image, listening to music and the other tips above are a great way to improve your confidence, but until you accept that you are an exceptional human being who deserves to feel good, none of these tips will matter. So go on, give yourself more credit, and watch your newfound confidence take over.
Inevitably, once you’ve achieved self-mastery and reached peak confidence, you will attract others around you. Some of these relationships will turn sexual. When they do, be kind to yourself and your partner(s) and use P.S. condoms. You attract ‘em, and we’ll make everyone feel comfortable. Enjoy.